Life, My Blogging Journey

Don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Hey everyone! It’s been a minute since I’ve shared a bit about my blogging journey – I don’t know where the time goes!

Something that has been on my mind to share for a while now is really the first thing that I learned, before I even embarked on this journey. That was: Don’t be afraid to ask for help, even if it scares you. Don’t be afraid to engage the services of someone who has been in your position before, who has learned how to launch a blog or start a business, someone who is willing to share those hard won lessons with you.

I had been toying with the idea of starting a blog of over a year, but I didn’t know where to start. I didn’t think that I would be good enough. Who would want to read what I had to say, after all? I don’t have any qualifications. Who do I think I am? But this feeling just didn’t want to leave me alone. It was always there, nagging at me. It was also getting louder and louder. Seriously, it was becoming downright annoying!

Around the time that the voice was getting too much to bear, a blogger that I had admired for such a long time announced that she was leaving her job in the fashion industry and that she was going out on her own. At that stage I don’t think that she had even announced what she was going to be doing as yet (at least not publicly), but before I knew what I was doing, I had DM’d her and asked her if she would be doing blog consultations. I was so excited when, a few minutes later, she messaged me back to say that she would absolutely help me out. I made sure to book my consultation before she could change her mind on me hahaha!

She sent me a list of 5 questions which really made me sit and think about why I wanted to do this. What was I going to blog about? Did I have enough to say on my subject? What was my goal? Things that I had perhaps thought of, but hadn’t actually taken the time to write down and fully articulate (something that I have discovered is incredibly important!).

Anyway, in April of this year, armed with my journal of notes, I finally got to meet the most incredible and beautiful Maz from Caffeine and Fairydust. A little bit in awe, a teeny bit nervous, and a whole lot of excited, I walked into our meeting place and introduced myself to one of the most gorgeous, successful, genuine, caring and friendly people I had ever met. I couldn’t believe that she had taken the time out of her considerably busy diary to meet with me: someone who dreamed of starting a blog, but who had, up to that point, not even written one post. All I had was my Instagram account and dreams of becoming a DIY and Home Decor blogger. That didn’t bother her at all. She had researched my social media platforms. She deduced things about me that I swear I didn’t know about myself. We chatted about what I wanted to achieve with my blog. She helped me with practicalities like buying a domain and choosing a host. She threw out so many content ideas for me, right there on the fly, that I couldn’t write them all down! Those 2 hours were worth 100 times more than the cost. And yes, of course I paid her for her time, it’s precious. Or, if you want to look at it differently, I paid her for her insights and lessons learned along the way. I can guarantee you that it saved me many, many headaches, late nights and swearing sessions. It probably also avoided major fights with the Hubs – when I’m a swearing, tired, stressed mess, ain’t no-one happy in this house! The only thing that I regret is that we didn’t take a selfie so that I could document the occasion 😉 But, I digress. Again.

I would not be here, I would not have this blog, had I not plucked up the courage to ask for help from a total stranger. 2018 has been about pushing myself out of my comfort zone and, let me tell you, I have pushed myself so far out of it this year that I don’t even recognize myself. Who is this person signing up for blogging events? Did I really just go to the launch of a revamped tile store all on my own?? I am an introvert by nature. I don’t do small talk with people I don’t know. Sometimes when I’m meeting new people I feel like I don’t know how to string 2 words together, especially if I feel intimidated (if you can believe that after reading this book!). I don’t like gatherings where I don’t know anyone, they make me incredibly uncomfortable and self-conscious.

What I’m trying to say is this: don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help, even if it scares you. Even if you are shy. Or intimidated. Or anxious. You don’t know what lies just around the corner, if only you take that leap of faith. Since launching this blog I have met a whole host of new people; I have started a collaboration with like-minded interior design bloggers; I have attended events on my own; and I’ve learned new things about myself along the way. Those learnings are priceless to me and have made the risk worth it already. Some days I don’t recognize myself. In a good way, of course.

My challenge to you is this: Do it. Take that leap. Make that jump. Take that step. Start that journey. It’s worth it. I promise.

If you would like to, tell me about it the risk you took. Or would like to take. Leave a comment, pop me an e-mail, or send me a DM on Instagram. I’d love to hear from you, even if I am a bit shy 😉

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