Hey there friend and welcome! This week’s #romancingthehome theme or challenge was to create a romantic bedroom, just in time for Valentine’s day of course. Now, while I do love a bit of romance, we generally don’t celebrate Valentine’s day in our home. It just doesn’t fit in to who we are as a couple.
What do I mean by that? Well, for instance, Valentine’s day, wedding anniversaries, birthdays, etc are all celebrated as a family; we will go out to the beach, out to supper, away for a weekend as a family to celebrate. That doesn’t mean to say that we don’t ever have any alone time as a couple; thanks to the great support system that we have in family around us. We are lucky enough to get at least 1 date night a week with each other.
Anyway, I’m rambling on and on trying to justify our position in all of this, when that is obviously completely unnecessary. It works for us; 15 years of a happy marriage through all the ups and downs that life has thrown at us is testament to that!
So, back to the topic at hand. How do I fulfill this week’s challenge 🤔. Our master bedroom has been mid-refresh since the day we moved in to this house. So that’s about 11 years then. There is always something else that comes along which eats away at the little budget that we have and, to be honest, I’m fine with that. That being said, we have managed a few little projects and updates through the years to lend to a cozy, comfortable space.
Create a focal point in the room
This is the most impactful (my spell check says that this isn’t an actual word?) thing that we have done by far is the pallet wall. I did a whole separate blog post on it, including the various stages that it went through. I’ll link it here for you if you want to check it out.
The purpose of the wall is twofold:
- It adds texture to the focal point of the room – I love how the soft upholstered headboard contrasts against the hard wood. (Yes, I typed that and yes I’m laughing like a teenage boy at hard wood in the bedroom 😂)
- It covers the trunking for the wiring of the much needed air conditioner.
Now, what I want you to get from this part of the post is that you don’t need to go out and buy a headboard, because you can create one at home, like the pallet wood one we did for my BFF’s room (I’ll link it here if you want to see). Or, you could do your own upholstered one using some wood, foam and fabric. You could even grab some paint and paint one directly onto the wall above the bed. It’s about creating that all-important focal point!
In my case, I saw this one on sale and I knew that I wouldn’t be able to recreate it for much cheaper. It was honestly one of the best purchases I could have made; it is so comfortable! Yes, comfortable. And I just love the look!
I would love to have a bed with white linens and blankets creating that beautiful farmhouse textured, layered, cozy look. I really would. The reality is I have a husband, kids and a dog, who all like to pile into the bed in the mornings while they eat their breakfast. When I really think about it; do I want white bedding and miss out on those morning cuddles (because no-one would be eating in bed then!) or can I give up the white bedding?
Neither – I compromised!
My duvet cover is the most gorgeous charcoal grey Egyptian cotton masterpiece. It is the most luxurious thing I own and truly worth every penny. It also washes really well and hasn’t lost any of it’s gorgeousness. Which is good, because I only have the one (which makes laundry day a nightmare, but that is a whole other topic).
My sheeting and pillow cases are white, I buy the cheaper ones because then I’m not too stressed if I can’t get stains out and need to replace it. They don’t feel quite like my duvet cover, but it’s a compromise I’m willing to make.
I also bought a white bedspread/cover for the bed. It has no other use than to be pretty and add more texture to the space!
This is where I find the true romance.
My husband chose our wedding song. It was playing on the radio and he called me going this is it, THIS IS IT!! Of course, I had no idea what he was talking about since I wasn’t listening to the radio at the time, but my mom was soon on the case. She actually got hold of the radio station to give her the name and artist of the song and she found it for me. It was beautiful and even more special to me because he heard it and thought of us. I’ll link the YouTube one here if you want to give it a listen.
Years later and I’m seeing that people are taking some or all of the lyrics from their wedding song and them to create signs. I just knew that this would be perfect for our room. So I googled (so much easier to find what you’re looking for these days!), found the lyrics and typed them up. In the meantime, Hubs found some scrap wood that would work to create the sign. We printed all the lyrics out onto vinyl with our Silhouette and he (yes he!) proceeded to painstakingly transfer it all onto the sign.
I can’t tell you what that actually means to me. I mean, I’m sure it doesn’t matter to him whether we have it or not, but yet, he spent hours (and I mean hours because he worked on some other designs as well before this) getting it just right for me. Though we have never done the test, I’m pretty sure that his love language is acts of service!
To complete the Valentine’s day theme, I add the heart-shaped jewelry holder to the staple of a candle and (faux) flowers next to the bed.
So, what can you possibly still need to do in this space, Stacy?
I’ve shown you the pretty, relatively complete parts of the room, but there is still a lot more to do. For instance, when we did the pallet wall, we took the cornices (trim) down at the ceiling (which you can see in one of the photo’s above). That still needs to be replaced. In fact, nearly the whole ceiling needs to be done from when we moved the built in cupboards. The laminated flooring is starting to lift and peel, so that needs to be replaced. The balcony needs to be cleaned up and redone. The curtain rod needs finials. We need to add another built in shelving unit, we need new bedside tables… the list keeps going. We will get there, all in good time. For now, we will continue to enjoy working together to create our home, project by project.
In (sappy) conclusion…
I hope that you have enjoyed this more-personal-than-intended blog post today and that it’s given you the permission to take your time and to just be yourself over this “Valentine’s season”. I know that I went off topic again (I’m supposed to be talking about a bedroom only here!), but quite honestly I never know where my posts are going to take me once I start writing.
My message today is: Don’t feel pressured into the whole chocolates/roses/dinner/dance thing if it’s not you or it’s not in your budget. There are so many alternatives: A intimate dinner at home for 2; a night out with the girls; a quite night in on your own; or a trip to the beach as a family works just as well – whichever suits your lifestyle best.
Don’t forget to check out my #romancingthehome friends and see what they have been getting up to. So much beauty in both their stories and their pictures – you don’t want to miss it:
Thanks for sticking around my friend, I would love to hear what you’re getting up to so leave a comment below!
Until next time,