DECOR & DIY, Home & Garden, Romancing the Home

Balancing the feminine and masculine in your home

So, I’ve given you feminine. I’ve given you masculine. And now, I’m going to give you balance. Well, I’m going to try to at least! Living with someone with different tastes to yourself can be quite tough. Especially if your partner has their own strong sense of design or aesthetic.

As you may know, Hubs is a metal head. Not musically (he’s more a country man), but aesthetically. I think it’s got something to do with his chosen trade. He likes the metal, industrial look. Cleaner lines. Natural wood. Black gloss. Minimal fuss, really.

Me, I’m more of a farmhouse shabby chic rustic chick. Which means curves galore. Stuff everywhere. Pastels and white.

You can see the issue here!

So, how do we balance it all?

1. Straight lines vs Curves

To me, curves are more feminine while straight lines are more masculine. I will admit, I throw various items of furniture together without putting much thought into it. It seems to work though. For example, my very curvy dining room set plays off the very straight-laced workstation in the dining room. I think it’s because they both have a white base. Also, I made sure that the handles on on the workstation had just a bit of curve in them to soften it up.

Sawdust and High Heels - multi-functional space - office in the dining room

2. Black and White

In other words: Grey 😂 In all seriousness, we do have a lot of grey in our home. Most of our walls are painted grey. Our bedding is a lovely deep charcoal grey. Even our accent walls are grey! The grey allows both the darker (Hubs’ side) and lighter (my side) accent colours to pop. I feel that it also ties everything together so well.

Feature wall - Sawdust and High Heels
I love the grey on the chimney – it’s a subtle difference, but makes such an impact.

3. Hard vs Soft

I’m going to take you now to the perfect place to demonstrate this: The bedroom 😱😮😂. The paneled wood wall made from pallet wood was painted white to soften it. The headboard’s soft, fluffy light grey upholstery is offset by it’s sharp lines. The dark charcoal bedding is complemented by a textured, white quilt and large, soft pillows. Are you seeing a theme here yet?

Master bedroom - Sawdust and High Heels
Our bedroom is really a combination of the two of us – as it should be!

4. Metal – practical and functional? Or breathtaking accessory?

Hubs is a metal head. I love curves and soft lines. One of the best examples of how we balanced this is with our chandeliers. They are the most gorgeous curvy copper, unashamedly metal, beauties. We bought these babies on a whim, because we both fell in love with them immediately. That doesn’t happen very often for us with our decor pieces!

Chandelier 4 - Sawdust and High Heels
Curvy metal… I love it!

5. Own space

There are times where your tastes are just too different and you just can’t agree on anything. My suggestion here is to have some designated spaces to do what you want, within reason of course! In our home, the bar area is completely Hubs. That’s his baby to do up (or not) how he pleases.Bar - Sawdust and High Heels Luckily I have liked what he has done so far! For me, it’s my hutch. I love its soft blue, green colour and its beautiful curves. Luckily, again, Hubs seems to like it too. Okay, he may not like all my little knick-knacks I have displayed on it. But he likes my hutch. I think.Hutch - Sawdust and High Heels

I know how tough it can be to balance your aesthetic with others in your home, so I hope that this was helpful!

For more tips and tricks, check out my #romancingthehome friends:

Until next time,

Stacy - Sawdust and High Heels

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